Do you have spirit guide shame?

Does not knowing who your Spirit Guides are make you feel less ‘spiritual’ somehow? Would it help to know I haven’t a clue who my Spirit Guides are?

I used to have Spirit Guide shame

I don’t know my Guide’s names, and they don’t need a name to work effectively. Many UK mediums of the past named their guides themselves. Her signature “feel” is enough and I love it when she pulls other magical stunts to announce her presence. Your guides are present and engaged, even if you’ve never officially “met”. They certainly know you, and that’s the main thing. It’s not a test and the psychic police aren’t going to flunk you.

In a world desperate to cash in on spiritual self-doubt, don’t buy into Spirit Guide shame.

1. It’s not who they are, it’s the relationship you build.

Having someone else give a flowery and detailed description of your guides might be entertaining, but if there’s no personal link or confirmation between you and them, all you have is hot air. Expensive hot air, if you paid for that reading. The best confirmation of a guide’s presence is your trust, built up over time.

2. Everyone has a main guide for the long haul.

Unlike the back stage crew contracted for special areas or times, the main guide never leaves. And the best news is – you’ve already met. Back before birth, when you both hung out in the world of Spirit. In a way, you’re already BFF’s.

3. Guides show themselves in different ways.

If you’re a visual person, and see with the eyes of the soul, a Spirit Guide may impress you with an image. It could be one seen in your mind and that is just as valid.

There might be certain names repeated over a short time in curious coincidences. For the sensitive ones, clairsentients register an energy shift when the Guides move close, or feel a certain warm, loving presence.

For those who love to speak or write, eloquent guides may often influence the words we type or say. Have you ever said something amazing and wondered at the sheer awesomeness of it? A guide could have inspired it.

Sometimes their thoughts land like a voice in your head, or certain information arrives and there’s no clue how it got there. One thing is for sure, Guides don’t appear like a burning bush and introduce themselves with their name like in the movies.

Guides could care less about a name and many great mediums in the past gave guides their names, instead of the other way round.

It’s our current world of proof and competition demanding names and famous pedigrees for our Guides when it’s often the last thing they care about.

Gordon Higginson, (1918 – 1993) who began his mediumship career as a child, had a child guide called “Cuckoo”. He said, “That was not her name: it was the way I called to her, then she would call back. Because of this she was called Cuckoo”. It was a plain and fun name – to suit the child he was.

4. Don’t let anyone tell you who your spirit guides are.

It’s a sacred moment to meet a guide and worth the wait. Having a reading to be told who your spirit guides are is an attractive idea. But if there’s no sign of them after the reading, what really happened?

Seeing or sensing a guide is not as important as building a relationship with them. After a while, the trust builds, you sense their presence and external readings for Guide is no longer needed.

5. They might not be guides after all.

Spirit guides always feel loving, warm and safe. Anything else is not a guide. I wrote about the four things Spirit Guides don’t do here. Our shadow side – the stuff we still need to process is very creative.

I had a client recently who felt scary presences and thought she had bad Guides. Looking deeper, we saw it was a fear of connecting to the spirit world. She was a medium but also loved watching spooky movies, so her imagination got in the way.

6. Meet Spirit Guides half way.

Guides are there to work with you. They will do the work if you do. If you’re not moving on your spiritual path, they can’t help you. It’s a team effort. Do your part, check in, and use discernment. Spirit guides aren’t something to elevate your social standing or show off with, they want to help you take the next spiritual step.

Next time someone tries to give you Spirit Guide shame, smile to yourself because it’s not who they are it’s how you work with them that counts.

Would you like to understand more about guides? Download the Guide to Spirit Guides here.