ugly duckling phase

The Ugly Duckling Phase

When everything feels clunky, odd and out of whack, you’ve reached the ugly duckling phase of your psychic and mediumship development. It feels like you’re not fitting in and you find yourself wondering if this really is the pond for you.

The ugly duckling phase is when everyone else seems to be swans, and you’re the one with sticky-outy feathers and a funny walk.


The ugly duckling phase happens to everyone

Every time you think you’ve turned into a swan, there’ll be another ugly phase to come along. Because there are always next levels to reach and gain in spiritual development and psychic awareness. If you’ve hit one, congratulations. Many people give up at this point.

All spiritual development has awkward moments.

At the beginning, we all feel like swans. It’s easy, and natural and everything falls into place like magic. Then we go a little deeper, perhaps trying out a new aspect and it falls to pieces and suddenly the sticky-outy feathers are back again.

Clunky and awkward is a great sign because it means new process are landing and adjusting and your psychic development is changing for the better.

The ugly duckling phase happens right after the magic phase.


The magic phase

We all recognise the magic phase. It’s the time of innocence when psychic work is easy and natural and it just flows without too much thought. It’s the magical beginning of the journey, where we’re not sure of the mechanics behind it; we just know we can ‘do it”.

Then the training starts. Suddenly stakes are high and self-pressure is on. It starts to mean something.

Enthusiasm takes you to many teachers and putting it together can feel clunky. Perhaps there’s a fear of looking foolish or being criticised – no one loves that!

Maybe there are checklists of ‘shoulds’ and ‘shouldn’ts’ and ‘now-I’m-supposed-to’s’. Before you know it’ the magic innocent natural phase has given way to a very self conscious ugly duckling.


The solution: Keep paddling

Just like a duckling in the water. Your feet may feel like there are spinning frantically, but on the outside, your soul development will glide along. Pretty soon you will be a beautiful psychic swan.

The resilience and strength gained from each ugly duckling phase helps the next one, and as soon as we enter that clunky place, we can remember we’ve been here before.


My ugly duckling moment

Currently, I’m in an incredible ugly duckling. I’m learning to rock climb indoors at a gym. I videotaped myself doing a very easy climb. Looked back at the video, and I’m simply awkward going up the wall.

I have little T-Rex arms, (my version of sticky-outie feathers) and I’m clumsy. One day this video will be a great marker to good beginnings, but right now, I’m in total duckling.

Every time I turn up to that bouldering gym and do that same baby climb, it’s going to be a little smoother and a little more graceful, and for now, my ego has to cope with being clunky.


It’s just a phase

Recognise that we all have clunky times when things are new and we’re getting the hang. I hope you do stay because the spiritual journey is so exciting. It’s one place we learn so much about ourselves.

If you’d like support for your own journey, there are over 200 blogs here, as well as over 100 short psychic videos on my YouTube channel.


But you’re an ugly duckling for a reason:

  1. You’ve always wanted to know for sure if you’re psychic and over every wimpy excuse
  2. It feels amazing to finally acknowledge that ability inside your soul.
  3. You’re over passive watch only DIY psychic courses (that you bought and never finish.)
  4. You want more than fluff nugget, surface skimming readings.

If you’ve done all the courses and flatlined, still full of doubt or worse, just gone back to the same ol’ way, then it didn’t touch your soul.

Maybe it’s time to be the beautiful swan. Let’s work together, swap the fluff for facts, and get ready to be a swan with My Psychic Soul:

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Semi fictional story about me

In 1994, I had a midlife crisis, got a boob job and moved to Byron Bay.

Quickly realized there was nothing there but more boob jobs and white furniture, so I escaped faux-spiritual beach culture, went to Peru, and experimented with DMT.

While in Peru, fell in love with a Shaman who was really a plumber from Padstow, but stayed because of attachment issues.

After following a puma from the jungle, I holed up in a Scandi-style Air B’n’B and finally got enlightened.

Parts of this story are true.

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