how to identify a spirit guide

How to identify a spirit guide

Not sure of if it’s a Spirit Guide, or just excited imagination? There are key things to identify a Spirit guide from wishful thinking.

Forget knowing their names or how famous they were – the real test is the quality of information and how they help. A guide feels loving and compassionate, and never tells you what to do.


My new guide

Years ago, in a mediumship training, I felt the presence of a new Guide. It felt like a woman and that was awesome, because we hardly hear about female guides.

Her energy felt strong, not like the energy of a loved one from the Spirit World. Throughout the next couple of days, more confirmations of her presence arrived and gradually an image of her built up in my mind.

She was Egyptian, with a high forehead, and I remembered back to happy days as a child reading Egyptian sections in encyclopedias.

So what did my very human mind do with this information? It leapt to a very fancy conclusion: My guide must be Nefertiti. LOL.

Thank goodness for the years of common sense mediumship training I had, because I knew right away that the imagination got away there – even though the ego REALLY wanted to make it fit.



Avoid mental embroidery

Here’s where we get tripped up again and again: Our psychic perception receives a little bit of juicy info, then if we aren’t trained to notice when the conscious mind embroiders the info, adding bits that don’t belong, we get into trouble.

That’s why so many claim to have famous people as spirit guides. It’s not that they’re lying, but haven’t quite spotted the skill of when human minds add extra bits.

We call it mental embroidery and it’s a normal thing for everyone to do. As we work more with inner skills, it’s easier to spot embroidery. But back then, my ego was so wanting it to be someone famous.

My ego was desperate to have the vanity of Nefertiti for a new guide, but the common sense evidence was simply an Egyptian lady with a high forehead.

I didn’t see a majestic woman in all her finery, or any statues – just her. Given the ancient Egyptian dynasties went for thousands of years, I’m guessing there was hundreds of high foreheaded ladies in Egypt. But my mind still wanted the embroidered version.


how to identify a guide

How to identify a spirit guide

Does it mean we’re fooling ourselves? Only when we don’t stay objective. Learning to notice ONLY what’s received and leave the embroidery alone is a skill earned with evidential mediumship.

Evidential work is the only kind I teach.

Identifying a Spirit Guide means observing only the information received, not what the mind wants to turn it into.

If they feel scary, or order you about it isn’t a Spirit Guide and I have a whole other blog about that but spoiler alert: It isn’t a negative entity or a demon or even the boogie man. Need more info to be sure?


The guide to Spirit Guides

Here’s a handy free resource to help you decide if it’s a Guide or not. Designed to answer questions and not pose more.

Find out if an animal can be a Guide and how to get better messages. Remember they’re here for our spiritual growth and will have that mission first – so sometimes they won’t be answering ALL the questions, especially if it’s about where to eat or getting that perfect park.

Access your guide to Spirit Guides here.


Guide to Spirit Guides

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Semi fictional story about me

In 1994, I had a midlife crisis, got a boob job and moved to Byron Bay.

Quickly realized there was nothing there but more boob jobs and white furniture, so I escaped faux-spiritual beach culture, went to Peru, and experimented with DMT.

While in Peru, fell in love with a Shaman who was really a plumber from Padstow, but stayed because of attachment issues.

After following a puma from the jungle, I holed up in a Scandi-style Air B’n’B and finally got enlightened.

Parts of this story are true.

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